The advertisement of English newspaper classification with different India has each emphasize particularly on, but have without an other place " ask for marriage advertisement " this one column. Resemble " Indian times " such old newspaper, every want monarch to give 229 edition to carry courtship message at most to on the weekend, among them meticulous degree makes a person adv unimaginably. It is to press above all male search female and female look for male classification, there is surname of caste, subspecies, language, religion to wait again below each category, specific to every advertisement, often include the detail such as degree of oneself profession, appearance, education, income, some still includes a vegan even, do not beg dotal etc specific " advantage " , little also of course not put forward courtship " condition " . See the prosperous sign of arranged marriage.
① free love gets good-tempered
Below the social background that still takes the main aspect in arranged marriage, more and more city youths choose " arranged marriage + free love " compromise mode. Although a of the reporter young friend gets education in abroad, in an international at present famous big news agency goes to work, but chose lifelong partner according to parental apiration however on problem of marital important matter. Another just passed and stand year attorney friend also is below parental arrangement with a caste and social class suitable female lawyer married. But they have a paragraph of love to experience before marry.
"We support understanding attitude to arranged marriage, be matched for marriage is the base with stable marriage, but this is not to say we cannot talk about love, " this attorney friend tells a reporter. He and his wife has had the contact of 8 months before marry, both sides had certain knowledge. "I understand the mood of domestic responsibility and parents, at the same time they also can value my option. I once had seen two boy or girl friends that pass the introduction before marrying with the wife, but because feel bad,did not conclude. But because feel bad,did not conclude..
② woman is dotal and ambiguous must not
In Indian marriage, the woman gets married makeup it is a distinctive scenery. Dotal sort is various, depend on a lot of elements such as the economic atmosphere of woman family, social class. Small the basin of boiler bowl gourd ladle that arrives to be used daily, arrive greatly electric home appliances
Allegedly dotal custom of India is the child of feudal property system. Be in in ancient time, after a woman gets married, from jural tell even if " the person of husband's family " , because this has no right,share any belongings of original family. For the balance " daughter " in the family the inequitable position in belongings allocation, "A married woman's parents' home " should take out commonly rich and generous dotal, be equivalent to daughter due actually that household worth. Additional, below the circumstance that lacks in material, new a form of address for one's wife is married husband's family increased the population that have a meal, bring economically burden to husband's family, dotal also be a kind of compensation that covert.
Although India was passed 1974 " oppose dotal law " , but in actual life asks for the wind with high dotal specified number still very be current. Because once the woman sues the man according to this law, provide corresponding evidence with respect to need, and mean marriage so " go bankrupt " , everything what bilateral work laboriously prepares should change a plan. The husband's family that the preceptress in a heart of 24 years old accused to did not come in anger last year is asked for dotal, became the brave event with one unusual picket. The farther-in-law that the court adjudicates to she did not come, mother-in-law and a sisters-in-law are guilty, of course this picket marriage also because of this be over.
③ marriage spends saving of half a lifetime
The wedding of Hinduism is a heavy and complicated and lengthy process. Bilateral new personality wants to be held in respective family interior first " general merchant " (a kind of ritual) , want to hold a ceremony jointly in fane next, it is bridegroom is riding tall head become known after the sun sets next Ma Xiangxin a married woman's parents' home goes all right all the way, namely the most lively " edge street is processional " , coming down again is the banquet of entertainment close friends, the many administrative levels such as relatives and friends of the guest that this separates husband's family even, guest of a married woman's parents' home, general guest, family are held respectively.
To cater to these huge demand, of India " bridal industry " emerge as the times require. Rental tent, offer band, arrangement cloister field, offer meal to served the horse of rental even become known, type of role that offers add to the fun of singing and dancing to become popular business. The winter that arrived every year to marry aptly, can see everyday almost in size city of India marry processional team. A of December 2004 " auspicious day " inside, xin Deli has 20 thousand pairs of new personality marriage, 7000 of whole town can chair bridal eligible monk to be used quite far from, need makes an appointment one year ahead of schedule. See this " sunny industry " have how prosperous.
One already married the middleaged friend that old, Yo has two children tells a reporter, a lot of Indians hate to part with food and clothing at ordinary times, but in hold do the flower on wedding money is very easy however, according to above the Indian wedding of complete set does, want to spend big half a lifetime to accumulate at least.
④ child marriage is abusive still general
Although the marriage law 1978 sets India, man 21 years old, the woman just achieves legal marriage 18 years old the age, but in India child marriage phenomenon exists generally still today. In a rural area that helps Gu Sitan nation, arrived every year " A Kadi section " have thousands of children is in of the parent chair next finishing " marital important matter " , have many children that still suck finger among them.
Child marriage is having in India " long " the history. Ancient time " rub slave code " regulation, man of 24 years old should get married with girl of 8 years old. Still have religion classical mention, the girl marries before development after its parents is dead can be raised to the skies. Arrived mediaeval, the Indian follower of a religion of flames of war of all previous classics is not willing to be the same as different race intermarriage, parents is wanting to marry minor daughter early then. What formed Indian child marriage gradually so is consuetudinary.
Today child marriage phenomenon of India, besides traditional religious habit, still have deep socioeconomy reason. Generally speaking, girl age is smaller, what the man asks for is dotal less, a lot of impoverished country families choose to marry minor daughter as soon as possible then go out. The population that have a meal reduced in the home after the daughter gets married, also can reduce a few burdens economically. Additional, not allow as a result of state of security of society hopeful, the girl gets married later, the risk that is encroached by the gender increases the more, this also is a reason that many parents give the child choice child marriage.
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